Single dad dating again
My just say no to dating single mothers post remains one of the most popular on this blog, with over 50K views and 3K Facebook shares. It always amuses me when commenters get outraged at what a judgy bitch I am. Single fathers have all the virtues single mothers do not, and they should definitely be on your radar screen if you are looking for some solid, husband material. First and foremost, every single mother chooses parenthood, as she is legally entitled to do.
I probably trash about 75% of the comments that post generates, since they all tend to be along the lines of “. Facing a positive pregnancy test, she has the option of evicting Junior from her womb long before any need to buy itty bitty shoes arises.
Before I start on the lessons I learned about dating a single dad, let me give you a bit of history about me.
In early 2011, after almost 10 years of marriage, I found myself divorced, single, in my mid-30s and (gasp!! For the first year and a half of my new “singleness” I shunned the thought of dating.
I smile back, wondering if it's me or my son she sees. My anxiety keeps me from making such attempts, but I want to. It is what it is; at least that's what I tell myself.
Hopefully it's both of us; I mean we are a package deal. I think about it, a bit longer than a moment, and regret it a little as we leave the store. Well, the truth is, life is not a television drama and this assumption is inaccurate.
What they never get to see is the reality of what my life is.
I was that guy on dating websites who was once afraid to mention my kids in my profile because no one would match me, and I always felt awful about it.
Let me tell you, I quickly learned that the single dads were, in general, the best guys I met. Parents are super protective of their kids (think about your mom and dad).
They were kind, patient, considerate, and frankly, not self-centered jerks. Introducing a new person to a child’s life is a serious thing.
I wasn’t ready to share my life with someone and really needed the time to grow and figure out who I was, and what I really wanted in my life.
When I finally decided that I was ready to date again, I had this expectation that dating in your 30s was going to be just like dating in your 20s.