Jaquelle Crowe is a 19-year-old writer from eastern Canada.She’s a graduate of Thomas Edison State University and the editor-in-chief of The But it's subtle, and of course, few would admit to surfing online dating sites for Chinese women, yet when the only girls they date are Chinese, then the probabilities are in their favour.Having said that, I'm surprised at what British men, both young and old, generally get away with when talking about East Asian women (Chinese, Japanese, Korean etc.) as well as South East Asian women (Vietnam, Thailand etc.) I've heard my Caucasian friends recommend to their male, single mates that they should date “nice Chinese girls”, with the added bonus that Chinese women are far more sexually open-minded than Caucasian girls.I'm all for supporting women, their choices, their agency and understand any of their desire loosen the restraints of any gender role.Furthermore, as someone who grew up in a church, I'm well aware the idea that, for many people, that difference between men and women manifests itself most in the role that each plays in marriage.I like the idea of a person with boss-like qualities, and I'm not at all intimidated by the idea of an intellectual superior or (not to make a cheesy comparison) what Michelle Obama's husband sees her as.That, however, is as far as I'll go on the idea of submission; for me, it's just a personal preference tailored to specific goals I have.
That's mostly because I literally have no idea how my personality will change and grow by the time I get married, whenever that is.
But I do have a few specific ambitions in life that I'm pretty sure will remain consistent for a number of years, and because of those ambitions, there is one thing that I'd look for in a woman.
I'd hope to be with someone I can go back and forth with on ideas, and someone who is just as willing to take control in certain situations as I am.
I want to do as much as I can to avoid heartbreak, painful consequences, and naïve mistakes.
As I think about dating for the right reasons, in the right season, for the glory of God, I’ve considered five questions to ask myself before I start dating — five indicators that I’m ready (or not) to date. Here is someone who is living, breathing, chocolate-and-flower-giving proof that you’re interesting and attractive. But if dating is of your validation, it indicates soul-damaging idolatry.